Nov 21, 2009

Judge Not...

It's always amusing to me when supposed adults, who don't want to be told what to do, use the verse "Judge not, lest ye be judged" as their justification to disregard others. They're really saying that anything goes. If no one can judge another, then you can't judge me, and whatever I want to do is fine.

Toddlers don't like to be told "no." They want to do what they want to do, and woe be to the parent or teacher who instructs them in the boundaries of appropriate behavior. If a toddler had the vocabulary to do so, he would tell his mommy to "judge not..."

Do you see the problem here?

Fact is, there ARE boundaries on acceptable behavior in our world, and toddlers had better learn about them before they go to school. What teacher is going to let Johnny write with crayons on the wall or jump off his desk, merely because he tells her to "judge not?" Why do we have laws such as murder being a capital offense if we are not to "judge" others?

Why? Because the verse "Judge not lest ye be judged" is not advising the disregard of right and wrong. Read the verse after that and you'll see "With the same measure you use, it will be measured to you again." It's saying don't be a hypocrite! If you tell me that it is wrong to lie, you better not lie.

We are expected, as adults, to judge, to discern right and wrong, and to instruct our children on the boundaries of acceptable behavior. It's not wrong to tell your toddler "no." You're not going to damage their precious self-esteem. You'll instead do the world a favor by instilling in him "other-esteem," the regard for the rights of others.

We'll all be happy.

What boundaries will you set for your children today?

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