Jan 28, 2011

Let Nice People Be Nice

Nice guys want to be helpful.

Guys generally want to be heroes.

If you need a guy's help, then accept it graciously. I don't have upper body strength, and so welcome manly muscles when I have to turn a stuck screw or lift something heavy. I welcome the help of someone who has abilities I don't have.

Being prideful ("I can do it myself!") doesn't help you, and it cheats him out of the opportunity to use the gifts God gave him.

Being a good receiver is as important as being a good giver.

Whose help will you receive today?

Jan 23, 2011

Setting Goals, Part 2

We talked about setting goals that are within our realm of priorities. Now let's think about setting achievable goals.

Look at Miss America. I admit, I wanted to be Miss America when I was a little girl. Having acquired wisdom, however, I see that it was not ever going to happen in my lifetime. Anyway, Miss America always says in the interview that her lofty goal is "World Peace" "End Hunger" "End Illiteracy."

Is Miss America going to achieve world peace? No. Not for lack of wanting, but that's not in her sphere of influence. Can she be at peace with God, her neighbor, herself? Yes. Can she end world hunger? No. Can she shop for a food pantry or work on distribution day? Yes. Can she end illiteracy? No. Can she teach a 5 year old to sound out a few consonants and vowels? Yes.

I am only one, but I am one. I cannot do everything, but I can do something. And because I cannot do everything, I will not refuse to do the something that I can do. And what I can do, I should do. And what I should do, by the grace of God, I will do. - Edward Everett Hale

Your goal should be within your sphere of influence. Maybe I don't have time to clean my entire kitchen, but I can clean out the pencil drawer. Broken into smaller chunks, an "impossible" task becomes entirely doable.

What achievable goals will you set (and accomplish) today?

Jan 18, 2011

Setting Goals

"Many people go fishing all of their lives without knowing it is not fish they are after." - Henry David Thoreau

"How many men spend the young years of their lives trying to climb the corporate ladder and when they get to the top, they realize their ladder's leaning against the wrong building." - Joyce Meyer

"If you don't know where you're going, any road will take you there." - George Harrison

Do you know the difference between urgent and important? Most people get so caught up in the urgency of life, living from crisis to crisis, that they fail to see what is important, yet neglected.

Slow down. Refocus. What will bring satisfaction, at the end of your life: taking care of urgent things, or important things? The phone ringing, or the child who is anxious to tell you about her day? The deadline at work, or the awards ceremony in which your child is recognized?

Set your goals thoughtfully. Don't sacrifice the thing you want most for the thing you want now. Urgent things have a way of distracting us from what's important.

On what important things will you stay focused today?